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Each and every one of us has something that makes us feel a little self-conscious…I hope.

I’ve been self-conscious about a couple of things which I have been rather reluctant t share, it’s already bad enough thinking some people beat me to the chase and spot my ‘flaws’ for me. So besides this being a dare, it’s my chance to turn the tables around and make my ‘flaws’ known myself.

It all began in primary school, I looked like an average primary school kid, other than the fact that I was super skinny. I was that 12-year-old who could still wear clothing meant for kids aged 9-10. To my surprise no one at school teased me about it or made me feel indifferent, I did that all by myself. When the clock struck 1:30pm and I was home, it didn’t become any better even with everyone telling me how they envy my body. I was literally the black sheep of the family, with everyone looking like the ideal ‘thick’ Zulu women.

High School came and it was like I had been given my first set of spectacles, as I for the first time saw a beautiful reflection in the mirror and had found the perfect way to embrace this, I would model. I had begun to realize that I am “fearfully and wonderfully made”-Psalm 139:14 and the only person on the judging panel who needed to be impressed was me, myself, and I.

It was all good for some time but not over yet. As I became older, like many other girls my body was changing and picked up a bit of weight…just a little. An extra kg or 2 was the least of my worries, my problem now was with a couple of stretched friends on my butt a with my boobs being, in my opinion too small, 32A to be exact. I yet again realized that other than wearing a sarong and padded bra, there is nothing much I can do about it.

We, so often look at other people and compare ourselves, trying to see if we measure up to what beautiful not noticing the phenomenal creation we see in our mirrors every morning. just because a gift is wrapped with the most beautiful and most expensive wrapping paper does not mean what’s inside is necessarily just as eye-catching. If at times you feel that your ‘flaws’ are too big and not even a little make-up or great outfit can camouflage, just remember that how you are on the inside will always shine through and that is where your true beauty lies.

All I can do, all any of us can do is love ourselves the way we are and realize that those ‘flaws’ are:






Modeling:Where everything I thought was a ‘flaw’ or insecurity is beautiful.
Zithobile Shabalala

StrawberryShare: Everything is beautiful, not everyone sees it-Gandhi



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  • Zithobile: Wow, thank you so much Nancy. You have no idea how big of a difference that message made. Everyday I'm learning what it means to not lean on my own un
  • Nancy Fisher: Ok you don't know me. I have never run across you or your picture before. I just wanted you to know when I saw your picture, to tell you how beautiful
  • Gavaza: WOW, this genuinely touched me, there's a story behind each and every one of us. May God continue to use you to bless others Friend.